Year end special !

Mr Jim Rohn  & Dheeraj Sharma

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JR: “Dheeraj you are a good guy. You remembered my notes BUT you know what..”

DS: “What ?”

JR: “You are messed up”.

DS: “How can you say that to me  Mr Rohn.”

JR: “OK,Tell me the numbers.Tell me the results.Numbers are new name of the game.”

DS: “What kind of numbers Mr Rohn.”

JR: “Numbers you didnt care about.Tell me How many technical books you read last year ?”

DS: “Zero.”

JR: “You know what .All the knowledge,wisdom is in books and you @##$$%%…….Mr Dheeraj you are messed up.”

JR: “Tell Me How much money you saved or invested last year.”

DS: “Zero.”

JR: “You know what…your future depends on how much you save or invest…Mr Dheeraj you are messed up.”

JR: “Tell me how many hours you spent to learn new skills to make yourself valuable in the marketplace.Other then what you do in your routine job.”

DS: “Zero.”

JR: “You know what.This is the reason why people started career together with you are earning more than you.Now don’t tell me money is not the thing you are craving for.You may not be Still Mr Dheeraj you are messed up.”

JR: “Tell me do you feel you are at better position personally and professionally since last year”

DS: “I’m Not”

JR: “Believe me Mr Dheeraj You are messed up”

DS: ” Mr Rohn ,You know me.Now give me feedback so that i can improve.

JR: Keep in mind following Quotes.

-People may think anything about you.Others opinion about you should not become your realily.

-Practice makes improvement.

-Give reasons to Your goals.

-Never make promises You cant keep.

-If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.

-Miss a meal if you have to, but don’t miss a book.

-Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.

-Do more work than you are paid for.

-You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.

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Wishing you a very happy life in the year 2010.

-Dheeraj

Science of Motivation !

2009: Soon will be “The year goneby”

Sunday 13 December 2009.

1:30 AM,This is what my net book’s clock indicating to me. One more year is on the brink of ending this is what my calendar is trying to say.Very few pages left in the book of the year 2009.Few days left to do the cleanup.Big question is how was year 2009 or what has changed since last year.Life has changed a lot in many respect.

-88 Kg, this is what weighing machines shout at me when I stand at them.10 Kgs addition since last year.

-Addition of Mayank in our life is most important and pleasant one.

-One more processor’s assembly language, satellite communication,Baseband filter chain,C code optimization for ARM processors,3G layer 1 are new additions in my Resume.

-Commuting by company Cab requires me to get up early in the morning.Owning a Car is still Dream.

-New friends for intellectual discussions.New TV shows in must watch list.New movies in favorites.

- Read these books this year : “Go kiss the world”,”Three mistakes of my life”,”Blink”,” How Opal Mehta Got Kissed, Got Wild, and Got a Life”,”rich dad poor dad”,”The secret”

Ongoing: “2 states”  by Chetan bhagat

-More comfortable in office’s socio-political discussions. I don’t try to solve the office Jokes.I don’t treat these Jokes as riddles now.

-Another important change is my personal life is I am more spiritually inclined.More faith in GOD.

-Switched to net book from laptop for my web surfing.Plans are there to buy Nokia N900 once available in India to fulfill my web surfing needs on the go.

-On professional level nothing special happened.I joined an organisation near to my hometown  just because I wanted to be near to my hometown.At this point I can say, that was not so intelligent decision to relocate or probably the decision I should not have taken.I didn’t think of long term professional growth I could have achieved if I had stayed in my previous organisation.So in nutshell,Year 2009 in the end was not exciting if I see it through what I achieved professionally.

Peace

Dheeraj

Today..

It can not be better description of today than horoscope i received through mail………

Friday, Dec 4th, 2009 – Relationships may be at the forefront of your thinking now, but it’s not wise to put the needs of others too far ahead of your own. Certainly, there is a place for unselfish acts of love, but there may be something in your own personal situation that needs attention today. If you attend to the basics of your life first, you’ll be able to give someone special a gift greater than just going through the motions.

-Dheeraj

Sometimes……

Sometimes I let my mind to flow in every possible direction.Let it think the weirdest thing it can….Sometimes I dont wanna sleep…Sometimes I give myself a reason not to sleep or probably two reasons…Sometimes I wish ….I wish this hadnt been this way..or probably that had been this way…Sometimes I wish not to learn…learn from the mistakes I did..learn from the acts I should not have done…Sometimes I and only I am there to blame….Sometimes I am not awaken and not sleeping…Sometimes I dont give a hoot to world…sometimes world doesnt give me a damn…Sometimes when  I am alone in the crowd,I pray to god..and sometimes I pray to be alone in the crowd…sometimes I re-read a book,re-watch a movie and sometimes I dont have a time to spare…..Sometimes I  translate a  hindi song to another language just beacuase I dont  have any other thing to write…….

“sometimes a thought crosses my mind, that it could have been possible that my life had been brighter, had it been able to be spent beneath the soft shadow of your beautiful hair…this sorrow, this grief that’s ever hovering over my heart…it could have dissolved into the sparks of your eyes…but it didn’t happen..but it didn’t happen and now my life is so that…there’s no you, neither the hope to get you…my life’s rolling on as if it has no desire for somebody to hold on to…no track, no destination…no sign of light…my life’s wandering in the dark…and lost in this dark I will remain…I know that, my friend…but sill…sometimes this thought crosses my mind….”

-Dheeraj

No one to blame…

I had plans to celebrate.Plans to relax after some hactic hours i spent.Plans that doesnt turn into reality.No one to blame,i am guilty for this difficulty.

Work-life balance is what i dreamt,but that doesnt seem to be my fate.No one to blame, this is my self chosen destiny i am trying to escape.

Its easy to preach.But at this moment it seems difficult to breach.No one to blame,This is my consciousness of my own identity i am trying to fake.

I am back to square one.Decisive will be time yet to come.No one to blame,This is fear within i am trying to hide and there is no one to guide.

No one to blame,There is no way,i am trying to runaway.

-Dheeraj

Hoping things will be as colourful in near future as this post of mine today is.

 

 

 

 

Reality shows and reality of life !

Since last few days i am spending a lot of time in front of the  TV watching never ending reality shows/talk shows .”Sarkaar ki duniya”,”Big Boss”,”SitaroN ko choona hai”,”perfect bride”,”pati patni or woh”,”tere mere beech main” to name a few.

There are a few quotes from these shows which are making an impact on my mind.such as

1. “Khel ko jeetne ke liye, khel mai bane rahna bahut zaroori hai.”(To win a game,Its important to be in the game ) -Sarkaar ki duniya ashutosh rana tells to his participant
2. “Kisi khel mai meri success koi probability ya sambhawana nahi hoti woh mera faisla hota hai ”.(My success in a game is not a probability,Its my decision).-One guy says to Farah khan in tere mere beech mai

It also made me to recollect some of  the quotes i heard from real people i came across.i jotted them down below

1. When i was child my mother used to say these lines very often “Hoi hai soi jo ram rach rakha ko kari tarak baravahin sakha”.One day i asked her what does it mean and she said ” Every thing happens as per lord ram’s wish”
2. Once you have taken a decision.Respect it,do whatever your heart says is good for you.success is bound to come. (My manager in my last company i worked with, told me)
3. When you go outside the school,life wont be that easy and you would feel like changing yourself.At that moment Do not change youself however adapt youself with the conditions and circumstances (My principal in the school)
4. Diye ki lau ka jalte rahna aur parwano ka mar jana toh tay hai,lekin ye pata lagte hee ki diye ki lau bhi thar-thara sakti hai.HazaaroN lakhoN parwane us thartharati hui lau ko bhujhane ke prayas mai apni jaan ki baazi tak laga denge.(It is sure that flame of the lamp will keep glowing and moths will die but if  moths find that flame can also shiver.Thosands of moths will try unsuccessfully till death to blow out that shivering flame of the lamp)-One of my teacher told me when he was trying to explain me that dont show that you are afraid otherwise people will make you more afraid.
5. Forget the past,be in the present and see the future.(B.mutthuraman CEO of tata steel in one of annual functions of my colllege)
6. Say, there is a stable and there are hundreds of horses in that stable.No horse ever tried to escape the stable.Owner of the stable knows that no horse will ever try to escape.Does that mean owner should not lock his stable ? No ! he should.Similarly in life there are certain things.if you wont do, then also there is no  problem but you should do. -one of my friend told me

-Dheeraj

 

Today’s horoscope

Around three years back when i registered myself to a horoscope site.I didnt know that i would be checking my horoscope everyday.And  today i am amazed by the fact that horoscopes i recieve from this site every morning are very true.Exactly what is happening in my life ,in my mind.

Here is another piece of that…..

Monday, Sep 28th, 2009 — You might feel as if your head is coming out of a fog today as the sky clears and you can finally see the distant horizon. This is a day of reconnecting with your mission since your panoramic vision allows you to gain perspective. Don’t be afraid to make choices now, even if you think that you will have to reconsider your decisions in the days ahead, after Mercury turns direct tomorrow.

-Dheeraj

A piece of fiction !

Mohan’s dilemma…A piece of fiction By Dheeraj Sharma !!

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Mohan lives in a small town with his family.He is 11 years old.Not old enough to understand life and not-young-enough-to- not-understand his limits.He is one of the brightest student
of the town.People talk about him,appreciate him,adore him.Like bollywood’s movie script he is not appreciated by them who should have,his family members.He never cared about it
primarily because he never thought about it.

 

It’s a summer afternoon.Mohan’s father is gone to office.His mother is sleeping.Mohan has a habit of not sleeping in the afternoon.And since summer holidays are ongoing,
He is thinking about kites.Not beacause in the evening he is going to fly one but because in the evening he will go and catch some kites.He is praying to god that today he will get one.He has made one small idol of lord Ganesha.He has also offered some flowers to Ganesha.
Actually he is not asking god to give him a kite but he asking that today evening direction of wind will be such that kites will fall in front of his house only.Otherwise there are very little chances that he will be able to grab one.In his locality catching kites are not that easy.There are organised groups for this only.
Since Mohan is not tall enough and is not considered as a suitable person to join any group therefore he has to
pray god that kite should fall in his house only or near to his house.

finally after a long wait,Mohan is ready in the evening to go for his hunt.Hunt of a kite.Now its time to check wind direction.Mohan prays lord ganesh,picks up some dust in his hand and slowly releases it.This is mohan’s way of checking
wind direction.Today it seems lord ganesha has listened to him.Wind direction is exactly where mohan wanted it to be.
There is only one kite in the sky.Now mohan has to wait for another one to come.Oki,here comes the second one.Mohan is very happy.Both the kites look good but mohan’s fevorite color is red.He is waiting to red one to fall down.

And then,

Mohan….Mohan…. (His mother is calling him to come back)

alright I am coming ma….

Take this 100 rs and go to market.There is no sugar in the house.I have to make an evening tea.Go fast and get 1 kg of sugar. (His mother said)

Ok ma….

Mohan looks at 100 rs note,Looks at Mahatma Gandhi’s smiling face on the note for a moment and folds it in a very artistic manner and keeps it gently inside his pocket.On the way to market he thinks about the kites and speeds up his pace to market.He wants to come back as early as possible.

From the shop he gets 1 kg sugar.He gets back 88 Rs back.Mohan is good in mathematics.He recalculates,and finds it perfectly fine since sugar is 12 rs a kg.He is headed towards his home.on the way he thinks what if he says to his mama that sugar is 15 rs per kg.This can save 3 rs for him and he can buy a kite from it.Mama will never know.But after a second thought he dropped the idea.
He raeched the home.Handed over sugar to his mom.

And then,

As he puts his hands in the pocket of his shorts,he finds that there is no money in the pocket.He has lost the money
while coming back to home.His mom asks for money back.Mohan is afraid now.He tells his mom that money is dropped somewhere on the way while he was coming.

A tight slap on cheek.Go, and find the money.If you cant.Dont come back to home. (Mohan’s Ma said)
Mohan is weeping,tears are in his eyes.He serches all the way he came back.But could find money.
In the end he comes back to his home and says that to his ma.He is beaten by his ma very badly gain.He was not given evening tea and snacks because of this.

Mohan is crying.he is sad.He has learnt a new lesson in life that dont loose money.Its very important thing in life.You will be beaten if you lose them.
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After 20 years,Mohan has become an officer in a very reputed bank.He is living far away from his mom.
He sends money to his mom every month.But now his mom asks him to come back.His mom doesnt want money.
Mohan remembers what was happened 20 years back and he is confused now.

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-Dheeraj
  

After a long time….

I am converting my thoughts into black and white format after such a long time.There were many reasons behind that delay. Most important one was: my laptop had some problem in motherboard of it and it was not booting up.I gave it to a repair center and he made mess of it.I was left with a non-repairable laptop.Consequently, i had to buy a netbook.This is my first post from my brand new netbook. 

Life is a circle,they say it.I have experienced it.I am back to Gurgaon,the place from where i had started my professional life.But this is not the only reason why life is seeming like a circle.I am back to a point where i started mentally.I feel like i have returned at same mental pace.

Till now there is not much i like about this place.Lack of continueous power supply is a big problem here so i had to buy an invertor.Water drainage system is worst.Little rain and you  will feel like you are not riding on the roads but sailing in the seas.(+-25% variance in this analogy).and unfortunately i can not do anything about it.It might sound funny,but today i wasnt able to make it to office because there was heavy raining outside and huge traffic jam.

Having said this,There is something good about this place.People may or may not be friendly but speaks same language and looks familier.I can connect with them.I can understand what are they talking about.  

As far as work life concerned,It’s too hectic.It might not be that challenging but requires a lot of extra hours.Tight schedules and deadlines make it more exciting !!And there is a underline difference in ways of working of a services company and a product company.

So am i happy with all this change.Really,I dont have any straight answer.I may or may not be able to fulfill the purpose why i came here.But I have learnt a new thing that circumstances around me doesnt determine my happiness.Its a state of mind within.I have all the control over my happiness.I can not be happy because my boss is  happy with me or i can not be sad becuase my boss is not happy with me.Probably,same was said by Lord Krishna ages ago..Karmaneva dhikaraste ,Ma faleshu kadachan.I have obligations to just perform my duties and have no right to expect a fruit/result.So my happiness lies in just doing my work.No matter what result may be.This is actually fear of result that makes a person unhappy, causes anxiety and develops strain.

Its been three months i have left Bangalore and i miss that place very much.I surely do.Days i spent in bangalore were probably golden days of my life.

-Dheeraj